Tuesday, December 13, 2011

........three and a half months later......

So, I'm not sure of the last time I actually posted something on here. I happened to go back and read some blog posts I wrote from last fall, and I guess it inspired me to write again. As you all know, we are a family of four now and Ezra has been with us for almost four months. First let me tell you some really wonderful things:

1. Ezra is so healthy and beautiful and super smart and right on track developmentally. She is inquisitive and curious and determined and developing a comical sense of humor.

2. Ezra is starting to talk! Mama, no-no, uh-oh, Jill (our dog), tee-tee (our cat), ball, jet, milk, snack, "moo," "woof-woof," "baa."

3. Ezra loves to dance! She has also developed a new skill of rocking back and forth from foot to foot and is also practically running already! I guess you move on quickly to better things once you master walking at 12 months of age!

4. Ari loves his sister and has adjusted astoundingly well to having a sibling. He asks "Where's Ezra?" if she's napping and has started coaxing her to follow him around the house and come play with him. Which is interesting considering the minute she gets her hands on something he's playing with first, he lets her know who's boss in a less-than-gentle manner.

5. Ezra has had no apparent attachment issues with me and Roger, although we still work on it vigilantly as we know it is a process that takes a whole lot longer than four months.

6. Ezra has slept through the night every night for one whole week now!!!!!! I credit this accomplishment to two things: her bottom molars are finally through and we implemented a version of the "Ferber Sleep Method" last Sunday night, and it worked like a charm. Thank you, Lord!!!!!! (Did I mention I now believe sleep deprivation is a true form of torture?!?)

7. We feel incredibly lucky and blessed to have our daughter home amidst all the orphanage closures in Southern Ethiopia due to UNICEF's monetary influence and the devastating ramifications that is creating for adoptive families, not to mention the bleak future the children affected now face.

And now let's get real and chat about some not-so-awesome stuff. This two-toddler business has knocked me and Roger on our rears!!!! No joke. Seriously, we have been in survival mode emotionally, physically, and mentally for the past three and a half months. This second adoption has been challenging to say the least. It is somewhat difficult to put into words how I feel, but the reality is parenting two toddlers 13 months apart in age is about ten times as hard as parenting just one. It has been frustrating and disappointing to me to not have an endless amount of one-on-one time with Ezra like I had with Ari. Duh. Did I expect to have a lot of one-on-one time? No, of course not. But to experience it creates a lot of feelings of inadequacies on my part. It is taking a diligent and relentless effort to attach to a toddler who is asserting her independence in all of her activities. That is an incredibly difficult thing for me to admit and accept. But the reality is my attachment to Ezra has been a process. It just is. So many adoptive parents experience this and so many people have told me it's normal, but, folks, let me tell you, it's not a good feeling. It feels like failure -- on my part -- and despair frequently and a whole lot of guilt. It feels like there is spiritual warfare being waged against me because, quite honestly, it feels so awful it just has to be the works of something evil. And it certainly does not feel like me at all. I love being a mother. Every day I look at Ari and Ezra and feel blessed and privileged beyond words to raise these two beautiful children. It is just such a contradiction of emotions at times. So, anyway, there it is. I will say great progress has been made and is continuing, and we are starting to feel our new "normal" and I am just so ridiculously happy and relieved that Ari and Ezra have each other. It is a glorious thing to watch them play together and develop such a close relationship at such a young age. And now for some pictures of our girl.

















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Monday, September 26, 2011

weekend update

friday evening when i get home from work we like to play a game called: push every button in dad's car.







then saturday we went to the farmer's market and they had a display of every type of truck a little boy could ever ask for...

took a while to work up the nerve to go see the fire-truck


then he didn't want to get out of the driver's seat


saturday was also a big day for another reason....ari got his "big boy bed"...so far so good (if you call getting up at 4:00am good)


sunday morning we had brunch at the barnhouse's. this was the best photo i could get of the three older kids.

notice ari's hair? they discovered a new product and let abby try it on ari. amazing! more to come on this in the future i'm sure

then sunday night we took a walk to the neighborhood park.


"underdog"


this weekend i realized i never carry my good camera around with me. so all of these were taken with the cell phone. lesson learned.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

it's only tuesday?

thankful for these two cuties, and my wife, when i get home from work and realize it's only tuesday night.....

group self-portrait
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wondering what that stick would taste like
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nightly ritual of brushing teeth
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there's a story behind this photo....
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Monday, September 19, 2011

monday monday

teething toy
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enjoying some chocolate after a successful trip to the potty
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our newest pet. (mr. spider) -- HUGE!!!
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ice cream treat (before)
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ice cream treat (after)
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ms. ezra prefers her ice cream through a straw
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just another monday....

rainy sunday

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new slippers.

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thunder.

Saturday, September 17, 2011

cousins

Cousins
as you can tell i'm tweaking the blog again.  going to do more photos since that's what most people really want to see.  really hoping this will help my photography skills as well.  as for the one above, it was shot with my iPhone.  not horrible, but we will do better.  

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

This is what it's all about....

We made it home and have slowly gotten over jetlag.  Ezra is doing great and is opening up more and more each day.  Can't believe how far we've come in a little over a week.  We landed in Springfield on Saturday night around 9:45pm and were lucky enough to have a great crowd of amazing friends & family waiting for us.  Below is our first "Family of 4" photograph.  Not too bad since three of us had been traveling for 34+ hours and the other one was up two hours past his bedtime.  We feel very blessed to have this picture.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Embassy date

It's official.  We leave this Thursday for Ethiopia.  Our Embassy Date is August 23rd.  We will be landing in Springfield on Saturday night, August 27th......with Ezra!!!

Monday, August 15, 2011

72 hours?

Most people plan for International Travel for at least six (6) months.  Not this family.  We got news from the US Embassy in Addis Ababa that we are cleared from travel.  We spoke with our agency and have requested Embassy dates of August 22, 23 or 24th.....NEXT WEEK.  So that means there is a 99.9999% chance we are leaving on Thursday.  That's right, less than 72 hours from now we will probably be en route to Ethiopia.  This is the point where I realize all the planning/buying/packing/etc that Abby has been doing over the last couple of months pays off.  She's incredible.  Ari and Ezra are both very blessed to have her for a mother.  And I'm blessed to have her as my wife.  We woke up at 6:30 this morning to the email from Addis.  It's been a whirl-wind ever since.  Stay tuned.......

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Embassy!


Date: August 9, 2011 10:17:05 AM CDT
To: "Wasson, Roger and Abby"
Subject: Embassy Submission
Dear Wasson Family,

Congratulations! We just received word that your case was submitted to the US Embassy today.  Once they have reviewed your case and cleared your family for a visa interview we will be in contact with you about travel dates.

(Very excited, thankful and blessed.)

Monday, August 1, 2011

Instragram fun...

If you happen to follow me on twitter (@rogwasson) there's a really good chance you've already seen all of these.  

Fun @ Baby Judah's babyshower


Shopping with dad does have some perks.


Playing in "dert" under Papa's deck.


Post "dert" playing -- sponge bath courtesy of Grandma Erin.


And yes, he is still this happy 95% of the time.  Very lucky!

Monday, July 25, 2011

Update on "E"

We haven't updated the blog on Ezra's adoption because there has been too much going on to write about - plus stuff changes daily.  Thankfully we met an amazing couple when we traveled for Court and she has written a great blog piece about our current situation.  There are lots and lots of details, but this helps narrow it down for the time being.  Thanks to Jennifer for writing the post -- read it here:
http://travisadoption.blogspot.com/2011/07/please-help-us-pray-her-home.html

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Ari + Baseball

A short video we shot after one of our nephew's baseball games.  Ari wanted to be like his older cousins so they put this helmet on him.  He cracks me up every day in some new way.  (And yes, I'm playing around with the blog -- I'm bored while Abby is working.  Any excuse to work in my new office/closet.  - Roger)

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Sunday, July 10, 2011

Little Man is 2

Yesterday was Ari's second birthday.  We had a big day and tried to take as many pictures as we could...


Friday night I made a Pineapple Upside Down Cake for Ari (tradition)
And tried to make a "2" out of pineapples (not going to be a tradition)


Ari and Abby enjoying some cake....in his PJs




Saturday we went to Table Rock Lake with some of Abby's family.  Ari loves the water.  He's not to big on his life jacket though.


Opening presents on the boat.


Swimming with mom in the lake. 


Helping dad drive the boat...and eating pretzels.



Happy Birthday, Ari Madegiya!

Ari